- Just start the kōrero/conversation. “I’ve noticed you’re not yourself lately” can be a good opener.
- Keep listening. If someone says they’re struggling, its a cue to ask “what’s up?”
- Ask open ended questions to keep the conversation going.
- Give and take. Talk about your life too.
- Ask yourself what’s more important, your awkwardness or their distress?
- Be reliable, but ensure you set boundaries to manage your own life and wellbeing.
- Talking can be easier when you’re doing something together – share a meal, go for a walk, take a drive.